finding prince charming (and who you meet along the way)
“All truth starts out as a wish, while all reality is born from fairytale.”
this post is for everyone looking for love.
growing up, we gazed with dazed eyes at our television screens playing VHS tapes of jasmine riding on her magic carpet with aladdin, aurora dancing across the forest with prince phillip, and of course, cinderella twirling in her glittering ballgown with her prince charming.
with these gorgeous fairytales of love dancing in our minds, our dainty princess eyelids flutter open to find our prince, but what awaits before us is not like the movies
of course, in the fairytales, it is not all at once a happily ever after. so on your path to meet your prince, you must face a fair share of dragons in the form of heartbreak and evil villains in the form of white smiles and suggestions of “let’s just be friends?”
unfortunately, it is highly unlikely that your prince will burst into your life with a white horse and professions of love after five minutes of dancing.
even if they do, however, it is a minuscule chance that the first one you give your heart to will be “the one”, so allow me to introduce you to every other charmer you’ll meet along the way.
1.)your first love. ah, yes, the smell of new love in the form of “you and me forever, babe” and late night phone calls until you fall asleep to the sound of their voice. your first love will come in a whirlwind of suddenness, and before you know it, you can’t imagine your life without him. it’s like they’re a part of you, or something.
unfortunately, unless you are 10% of the world, you will not live happily ever after with the one who holds your hand under the desk in lit class. it will feel like you’ve never experienced life before them, and suddenly, they’re gone just as suddenly as they appeared. you’ll mature a little, (hopefully), take a step back and wonder to yourself why you ever thought their habit of burping after every sip of his drink was cute. at all.
your first love will come and go faster than you can wish for it to stay.
2.) “let’s just be friends?” the four words that can turn any moment of admissions of the heart into feeling like you just drank seven gallons of sour milk. how can they not feel the same? how could this feeling possibly be one-sided? is it me? did i do something wrong?
the fact of the matter, however bitter it may be, is that in this world, feelings are never guaranteed to be returned. you may be absolutely infatuated with the green specks in her brown eyes, yet she may only see you as a really cool person to watch harry potter with, or maybe order pizza with on saturdays.
this is the most innocent of heartbreak, and no matter how hard you pinch your lovehandles in the mirror, more times than not, there’s absolutely nothing you can do. chances are, you’ve shunned a weird boy in spanish class into the exact same zone without even realizing (you are gorgeous, after all). this seemingly endless heartbreak will fade with each passing day, and the most important thing to remember in this scenario is that you musn’t blame yourself.
it’s not me, it’s them.
tell yourself until you believe it.
3. the emotionally unreachable boy. arguably one of the most painful experiences you’ll ever endure, someday, you will stumble across someone with messy hair and dark eyes that you pour every ounce of yourself into. it will feel like someone has poured acid through your veins when you tell him how you really feel about him/her, and fear flashes through their eyes like you’ve told them their mother is dead. you reach out for their heart and get nothing in return but a cold shoulder, and finally, when you blurt “i love you” at four am, they’re gone by sunrise.
when you find these boys, you must remember that life is not composed of single causes and single effects. perhaps its the way their mother was only home for one christmas in their 18 years of life, or the way their brother always seemed to make better art projects and report cards than they did. for whatever reason, their heart is as unreachable as the delicate lingerie at victoria’s secret that costs four paychecks.
it is vital to remind yourself that you did not store their emotions in a safe so tight not even they can reach them. it is not the way you chew your food or fix his coffee that keeps them so distant from you.
it is not your fault, my dear. the world is cold and sometimes people fall too accustomed to it.
when this boy is gone, you must pick yourself up and glue the dejected pieces back together and remember that you are as warm as the sun, and it is not your fault that they are lost.
4.) the flirt. a unanimous cringe sweeps across all of us at the thought of this person.
you’re talking, right? they can’t date you because of school, because of work, just because….things are complicated. but you’re talking. so they’re yours. right? maybe?
it’s fine that they’re taking that person out to dinner after the football game, they’re friends, it’s fine. he still likes you, right? yeah, you’re talking, of course it’s just you.
these are the ones that the population has been ripping their hair out at for centuries. they’re a lost cause, and for whatever reason, commitment seems about as realistic to them as grasping the highest theory of quantum physics.
but when they kiss you, it just…feels so real, you know?
when you’re stuck in the “stop overreacting, baby, you know you’re the only one” for too long, you need to look in the mirror and realize that you could move mountains with how fucking wonderful you are, and that you deserve more than to get scolded for being upset over the instagram picture he posted with seven other girls.
if its a relationship you want, its a relationship you deserve. leave them to their stupid winky face texts and excuses and find someone who would drain oceans for you.
5.) prince charming. this is the one. the one who theoretically (or maybe literally) sweeps you off your feet. in most cases, the one you look at whilst walking down the aisle in that beautiful gown of yours. they will look at you like the sun could never shine brighter than your eyes and the oceans shore could never be more peaceful than being wrapped in your arms. you will feel more comfortable around them than anyone else and everyday will feel like an adventure with them.
don’t be discouraged if you haven’t found “the one” just yet, remember, there are many lovers you will meet before them and one day you’ll come across someone who makes the sunrise brighter and the sunset slower.